READY TO LET GO...
In life we need to actually learn to let go but this is not a MUST! You don’t wake up one day and all is gone… (I wish it was that easy) you master the art of letting go…through time and patience.Does this sound familiar?“”Is time to let it go… you can’t hold on to it any longer….””And they actually piss you off as do they know our pain? Do they actually understand why we are still thinking about it?!

LET GO THE DEAD….
This is a subject that fascinates me the most…Dead people our friends and family members that passed on and we are still hanging on to them...Why? A good friend of mine passed away 3 years ago-We worked together on the most luxurious train in the world here in South Africa and she was truly one of my best friends full of life beautiful girl and always up for a challenge and loved a good party!Her boyfriend decided to kill her one night...After a night partying they returned home where apparently they had a fight and he decided to end her life (at 23 years) she was strangled with a dish cloth...Then once he left her on the bed he decided to get naked and jumping on one of the other friend that was in the other room stabbed her a few times-The girl that was stabbed managed to bite a piece of his tongue off! She didn’t have any strength to fight him so she started to pray, then he jumped off one of the windows...NAKED! Probably with the blood all over him from the stabbing and from his tongue being bitten off…This is still the most shocking story I have ever heard…especially when one of your best friends gets killed-I have tried many things to get over my friend’s death…and it was not easy…I confess that I’m not OVER it yet-I can’t let go-I might not think about it as I use to...But I definitely will never let her go. Why? Because is too painful I can’t believe that the bastard is still on the run (by the way) maybe because there’s no closure on this-maybe I’m selfish and I should think about other things…

LET GO YOUR DEAD PET
Oh well...this is another painful topic for me-When I was younger I went through 2 deaths the first one was my red cat Ciccio that died when I was just 7 I don’t remember it so well but I do remember my parents outside with the cat in Rome trying to calm him down as apparently it got mad and had dysentery the vet couldn’t do anything else to save our little friend…my dad actually found him next to the rubbish bins and it was a little kitten then.The second cat was Lucrezia a beautiful black Persian cat we got her from one of my mother’s friends as they couldn’t keep her anymore due to an allergy that one of the daughters had-So my mother was happy to take Lucrezia home she was already an adult cat at the time so it was difficult to bond with her but after a couple of days we loved this cat! Being an only child I thought she was my sister cat! I really loved her so much-She died of old age the vet said she probably had heart failure the Persian cats are very difficult and delicate cats...They die young as they also get overweight we had her for 8 years.When she died I wasn’t there I got so angry at first, as I thought she didn’t even said goodbye to me?We were so upset we actually had a “”funeral”” for her as were living just outside Rome our house was next to this little forest we buried her under a tree-I use to go visit her regularly-When we left Italy to come to South Africa we bought a Rottweiler and named him Tyson. He was just 2 months old very small and so cute! He grew up very quickly his head was huge and people just loved him as he looked like a show dog! After 10 years Tyson got sick…it started with his front leg he couldn’t walk properly anymore and we thought he just jumped in the wrong way or something, but as the days went by it got worse…we decided to take him to the Vet-Our family Vet told my parents the bad news-Tyson has got cancer he will probably survive another 3 months but not longer –This was like a Death Sentence for my parents-From the X rays one could see a big hole in his front leg-scary...it got to the point where he couldn’t put his leg down anymore and struggled to walk anywhere! He used to jump like a kangaroo actually and very playful dog he loved to go for walks outside and as strong as he was he would still want to go out!We went to another Vet for a second opinion-the verdict was the same-My parents and I didn’t stop there so we went to a third Vet actually the animal hospital where they specialize in this kind of things, we also asked if we would agree to amputate his front leg what would be the result-Amputation in these cases was not an option as the hole was so big and the cancer had spread to his lungs as well-Also the leg was the front one his body weight was too heavy to be left with 3 legs only…We had two options: One to keep Tyson like that until it was so bad and then put him down-Or to put him down immediatelyIf we were going with option one the risk was that he would break the leg and it would have been even worse as we are talking about a Rottweiler here and not a poodle those dogs are big and could get even more aggressive if in pain…So we opted for option 2 where we would end his pain immediately-I still remember the nights waking up to his crying behind my bedroom door as we allowed him to sleep inside the house I would wake up and sit with him on the floor and pet him so that he would feel safer-So the day arrived when my mother and I had to take him to the Vet as my father was too emotional to go…He knew we were taking him there-the doctor gave him the first 2 injections in the car as he was very agitated at 18H00 we could transport him inside the vet room we lied him on the table and we said our last Goodbyes to him….my mother ran outside as she couldn’t stay in there any longer I don’t know why but I stayed till the end until he had his last breath..I kissed him Goodbye and left him in there…the following day they took him away for cremation. we got him back in a little wooden box-Incredible…one day you have your dog the next day is in a box….Both my parents and I struggled to let Tyson go… I think we finally realized he is not with us anymore…Now we have Tyson junior which brought us some happiness-But Good old Tyson will never be forgotten so easily….

LET GO THE PERSON YOU LOVED…
Does this sound familiarIf you love someone let them go….. Or set them free…why??

I mean...if we love someone that much we should never ever let them go! Is not a good sentence that one not at all!If that someone that we loved made us angry and left us then I would say let them go yes! As you would have valid reasons…A bad relationshipHow many of us went through the same thing with boyfriends/girlfriends? That dumped us or we dumped them or they just took us for a ride…what ever the case might be, did we let go?This could be a tricky one as every story is different-I would say it all depends on what happened...obviously if the “”loved one”” dumped you for that Barbie that use to go to school with you just because she is hotter or blonder or your husband cheated on you because the secretary was more “”available”” then you were, or your boyfriend left you for a man…whichever the case please remember that it all depends! Yes, because usually when someone hurts you in that way they deserve nothing but a kick off your life! They don’t even deserve you thinking of them or talking about them…Stages of
POST-RELATIONSHIP
SAD STAGE
At first remembering all the good things...Hearing that favorite song that brought you together …writing in your diary feeling extremely hurt and feeling that you are the only one on planet earth that is going through this…Mopping around the house, some people don’t eat some eat too much, and so forth…
ANGRY STAGE
Where you just want to break her/his nose! Where if you would find him/her on the road you would drive over… where you would burn his/her house down ,you don’t care if he/she still alive! Hearing nasty heavy metal songs to help with your anger!

CRAZY STAGE
You realized you are single now again-Oh great! Going to more parties you want to meet different people not to have a serious relationship again but to enjoy life a bit one night stands having one or more guy or girl at the same time playing around a bit-This is how I see it-different stages. Some people go through all of them so quickly that when they realized that person is gone they go into e even depressed wave where they could drown and never come back up again-I would suggest you take it easy if you want to feel like a mop for 3 months so go for it! No one should be in a position to judge you.. be a mop! Stay at home listen to that sad song...hate all the men/women on earth yes why not! I bet you will feel much better…You still feel Angry? Go for it! Take a Kick boxing class! Even better! as you mix the anger with this sport! Listen to Manson …so?!Go for a run to the top of the hill-get cross in the car… Yes really.. this will help as well-Acting Crazy? This is the best stage! Yes because you finally realized that being FREE and single makes you feel fresh and attractive you go out keep it real! you love the people around you! You are finally open for business! Loosen up a bit take that round the world trip you always wanted to do! And that job offer overseas? Well why not? Go for it!So whoever tells you to let go….yes but give me time!

Not everyone is a Super Hero! And no one should be…coz at the end of the day you should decide for yourself there’s not even a guide book on this!Is your own head, is your own heart, and is your decision at the very end-talking about it should be already a huge help but talk to the right people though... As a common minded friend or relative will only make you feel even worse sometimes….

Roberta